Contrary to popular belief, not all psychopaths are serial killers or “Casanovas”. Many of them are ordinary people and they look normal. However, behind their façade, they are highly manipulative people who don’t have any sense of compassion, remorse, or guilt in them.
They are chameleons who can shape themselves to fit into any social situation to get what they want. They will say and do anything to achieve their goals, not caring whether they will hurt anyone in the process. They only care about success, money, power, sex, and attention.
When they feel threatened in some way, their true colors will come out. Arguing with them is an experience you will never forget. The arguments will usually begin after they’ve hurt you in some way, but you will quickly find yourself trying to defend themselves for their mistakes.
Here are 6 telltale signs you are fighting with a psychopath – a battle you will never win and is best for you to walk away.
1. THEY HAVE A PATRONIZING AND CONDESCENDING TONE OF VOICE
When you are arguing with a psychopath, you will see that they are keeping their “cool, calm, and collected” demeanor during the entire time as if they are mocking you and testing your boundaries to see how much you can take. When they succeed in their intention to get an emotional reaction from you, that’s when they will tell you to ‘calm down’ because you are overreacting, and you are embarrassing them.
2. THEY LIE AND MAKE EXCUSES WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY
Everyone can make a mistake from time to time, but when it comes to psychopaths, they make fake excuses followed by fake promises more than anyone. They lie to your face in order to keep the fantasy alive. Apparently, you will realize this when you start noticing that their actions don’t match their words. And that they have conditioned you to be satisfied with lies and mediocre treatment.
3. THEY ARE HYPOCRITES
During arguments, psychopaths due to their lack of guilt and shame will start calling you names and labeling you with the same things that are true for them. They will project their awful personality onto you. Their goal is to get you so angry and emotional so that you react, and they can tell other people that you are the one who is crazy, not them.
4. THEY ARE ALWAYS THE “VICTIMS”
Every argument you have with them will somehow end in you feeling sorry for them being “abused” by their horrible boss, their crazy ex that is not leaving them alone, or their parents who abused them as a child. Once the psychopath succeeds in changing the subject and diverting your attention, they will continue behaving the same way and you will be the only one that is being abused.
5. THEY DON’T HAVE EMOTIONS
When arguing with a psychopath, you will find yourself explaining basic human emotions to them, emotions like empathy and kindness. You will be trying to explain to them how they have hurt your feelings and broke your heart. You will need time to realize that these people don’t have empathy or compassion and they will continue hurting you and the abuse will be worse and worse.
6. THEY APPEAR TO HAVE MULTIPLE PERSONALITIES
When you are arguing with a psychopath, you may get to see their various personalities. It’s kind of like the bad cop, good cop, scary cop, stalker cop, baby cop, etc. Once the psychopath sees you moving away from them, they will present to you their “good” side only to lure you in into their web of lies and manipulations. They will not let you go until they decide you so.
If you notice these things happening to you – run! Only by walking away you will save yourself.