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6 Reasons Why You Must Stop Pleasing Others And Start Prioritizing Yourself Instead


When you ignore your needs and try to make everyone around you happy, instead of feeling happy, fulfilled, and grateful, you’ll start feeling lifeless, empty, and numb. Trying to please other people can be really stressful, overwhelming, and exhausting.

If you are overly kind, compassionate, and caring, your energy level will drop, and you’ll need more time to rest and recharge your batteries.

Below are 6 reasons why you must stop pleasing others and focus your energy on yourself.

1. You’ll Lose Yourself

If you try too hard to please everyone around you, people will perceive you as a pushover and they’ll be tempted to walk all over you. In the process of pleasing everyone, you’ll lose yourself and your true essence. Because the more you try to agree with others and make them happy, the more you’ll disrespect yourself and your own needs.

2. You’ll Harm Yourself

Once you realize that no matter what you do you cannot please everyone, you’ll feel awful. You could feel immense pain when you realize that your efforts are not being appreciated and you have been taken for granted.

3. You’ll Make Yourself Vulnerable

Trying your best to please everyone and make them happy, can make you more vulnerable and sensitive to criticism because you’ll begin to depend too much on other people’s opinions. You can’t please everyone, and you shouldn’t try to.

4. You’ll Damage Your Health

When you spend excessive time and energy prioritizing others, you can easily forget to take care of yourself and your wellbeing. When you focus on others’ needs and not on your own, you’ll invite stress into your life which can be harmful to your health in the long run.

5. You’ll Create Co-Dependencies

Other people will get accustomed to you doing everything for them and they’ll start depending on you. That’s a lot of pressure to carry on your shoulders because when you don’t show up for them, they can feel like their life is falling apart. You should be very careful because this happens very subtly, and you may not even realize it.

6. You’ll Feel Unwanted & Unloved

The irony of trying to please and help everyone is that when you need help there is no one around to help you. That’s because the majority of people don’t think that you ever need help. And their oblivion can really hurt your feelings and you may end up feeling rejected, unloved, and uncared for.

Don’t do this to yourself. Stop pleasing others and focus on yourself instead!  

Mary Wright