It’s truly painful to realize that the person you are madly in love with, does not feel the same way about you.
However, people still choose to stay together regardless of the fact that sometimes the love is gone. They choose to stay even when the relationship is no longer what it used to be.
Maybe it’s because it is comfortable for them, or they’re afraid they’ll end up miserable and alone, or maybe it’s because they don’t want to hurt their partner.
Still, there’s no doubt that once a relationship reaches that grey area and becomes insufferable, it’s suddenly clear that you’re in a fake relationship.
Here are 6 ways to tell if your relationship is fake:
1. YOU ARE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT IN PUBLIC
If you and your partner are lovable and affectionate in public, but the complete opposite when you’re alone, there’s something wrong in your relationship.
Once you reach a certain stage when it’s clear that you two are behaving unnatural and fake just because others are watching, it’s maybe time to sit down and talk to your partner.
2. YOU AVOID HAVING DEEP CONVERSATIONS
Relationships are about opening up. You have to be free to undress naked in front of the person you love, otherwise, it will never be the real thing.
If you and your partner avoid talking about your dreams, fears, plans, and values, you cannot possibly build the trust and develop a sincere and lasting relationship.
After all, what kind of a relationship is it, if you cannot talk to your partner about it?
3. YOU HAVE NO DESIRE TO SEE THEM
We are all familiar with that inexplicable feeling of yearning for your partner’s touch. It’s that lovey-dovey, honeymoon phase in the relationship when you’d do everything to see them 24/7.
However, when this spark doesn’t exist, and you and your partner hardly ever see each other, now that is a red flag. This means that your relationship is lacking real connection and deep communication.
4. THEY DON’T WANT TO GET TO KNOW THE REAL YOU
When we truly love another person, we want to know everything about them. We want to know what sets them on fire, what makes them sad, what makes their soul flourish, what drives them crazy. Because only then we can really connect with them.
If your partner doesn’t bother to reveal their life to you, nor wants to know more about you, your relationship may not be going in the right direction.
5. YOU ARE NOT WHO YOU ARE WITH THEM
More importantly, you have to be free to be your true self in a relationship. There should be no pretending when it comes to love. In a right relationship, you have to be comfortable to be yourself around the one you love.
If you find yourself walking on eggshells, believe me, they’re not worth your time.
6. YOU DON’T SPEND ANY QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
If a couple is truly interested in each other they will look forward to spending quality time with each other. Forming memories which you would cherish and the unexplainable euphoria to be with each other.
If you don’t have such feelings and you don’t long to be with them you are only investing your time in a hopeless relationship.