Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is a very painful experience. When you constantly live with the hope that one day the person you love will look at you and fall in love with you, you are torturing yourself. It’s agony.
I experienced unrequited love and there isn’t anything more devastating and painful. Having come out of it and healed myself, here are 5 things I learned along the way.
1. SPEAK YOUR TRUTH
I spent two years hanging out with a guy who was my friend while being madly in love with him and not telling him anything about my feelings for him. I assumed that it is better to wait for him to realize he loves me as well than risking our friendship by telling him. I was so wrong. I should have told him the truth from the beginning and save myself from years of pain and heartache.
2. DON’T IGNORE THE RED FLAGS
They are always there if you care to look for them. As for me, I was blind. Even though I knew that he didn’t love me in the way I loved him, I still hoped he’ll end up falling in love with me. Someone who blows you off, who you don’t see regularly, who forgets your birthday or important dates, or who doesn’t make you a priority is not someone that loves you. This should be the red flag you are looking for,
3. DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME
Don’t waste your time. Don’t sabotage the other chances you have with other people just because you love them. If you are not treated and loved the way you want to, it’s time to walk away and find your happiness elsewhere. Life’s too short.
4. THINGS YOU NEVER IMAGINED WOULD HAPPEN – HAPPEN
I personally, never thought I can ever wait for a man to love me. I never thought I would beg for his attention and time. I didn’t beg him per se, but I waited constantly for him to call me and ask me out. I never thought he would get into a relationship with another girl, but sadly, he did. And I never thought my heart will get broken, but it did.
5. YOU WILL GET PAST IT
Luckily, I was able to and I did get past it. I healed. That experience changed me, and I learned a lot from it. For that, I am forever thankful to him. I didn’t regret anything. Now I know that I want a love that is reciprocated.
Have you ever been in this situation?