In my belief, the worse thing than not having friends is having fake friends. Fake friends are people who are friends with you for all the wrong reasons which are often selfish ones. The friendship between you is toxic because they don’t have your best interest at heart. They are not loyal, and they are only looking after themselves.
Here are 5 things every fake friend does.
1. THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT
Everyone has arguments with friends from time to time. However, with a real friend you discuss a certain topic and if you can’t find an understanding you “agree to disagree.” With a fake friend, however, it is different: they will never let you win. The word “compromise” is non-existent in their vocabulary. And this is what makes your relationship toxic; because if they can’t value your opinion they don’t respect and value you.
2. THEY SEE YOU ONLY AS AN EMOTIONAL OUTLET
They always call you when they need your listening ear, but when you need them – they are never there. They are always excited to talk to you about the things that happened to them, but when you start telling them about yourself, they lose interest. Also, when they ask you for a piece of advice and you give them, they never listen to it and never change their ways.
3. THEY MAKE EXCUSES AND BREAK PROMISES
A real friend will always be there for you and will have your back. A fake friend won’t. They will often leave you out in the cold. They will make excuses and break their promises because they don’t respect your friends as you do. They only see what they can gain from it.
4. THEY CAN’T KEEP A SECRET
Fake friends can’t keep their mouths shut. They like to gossip about other people, and when you are not with them, guess what? They gossip about you. They can’t keep a secret because in their mind, spilling secrets makes them feel like they are important, and they have power.
5. THEY ARE ONLY AROUND WHEN THEY NEED SOMETHING FROM YOU
A major red flag of a toxic, fake friend is if they only get in touch with you when they need something from you. They pop out of nowhere and after the initial meaningless talk, they immediately go to the subject that interests them and ask you a favor. And with that you will know that their intention was never genuine, they only wanted the thing they asked you for.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM?
Cut any ties with them. Walk away from them and cut all contact. I know this may be hard, but there is no other way of dealing with them. You don’t need fake people around you. You are better off without them.
Plus, there are many other genuine people out there who are waiting to be your real friends. There are good, nice, and loyal people who know the meaning of true friendship. They are trustworthy, loving, and willing to be there for others.
Surround yourself with those kinds of people and get rid of the fake ones if you want to give a meaning to your life. If, however, you can’t cut ties with them, then minimize the contact you have with them. And never feel guilty for doing it, because your emotional and mental health is more important.