I was recently talking with a friend of mine that got married last month. And I asked her the inevitable question, ‘how you knew that he was the one?’
She said that on their very first date, they talked about just everything. The conversation was flowing naturally and effortlessly, and they didn’t want it to end.
Their first date soon turned into a relationship and they both were learning about one another. And she started to feel that this man could be her future husband. And not by fate, but by choice.
She didn’t know from the first date that she would marry him, but as the time passed he made her feel that saying ‘I do’ to him is the right thing to do and that was the easiest choice that she ever had to make. She knew he was the one because there were some tangible things that really proved that he was the man for her.
If you wonder whether you and your boyfriend should get married, here are 5 telltale clues that you will marry your boyfriend in the future.
1. YOU ARE GREAT FRIENDS AT THE CORE
Some people underestimate the importance of friendship in a relationship. However, many marriage counselors advise that friendship in a marriage is one of the crucial things. You need to have friendship as a basis for your marriage and treat each other with respect, empathy, and companionship – just like real friends do.
2. YOU CAN LITERALLY VISUALIZE YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER
This is a great test for your future together. If you can visualize your partner as the future father to your children and your husband, and if you can also picture you both parenting together and living as a husband and wife – then, this is a good sign that he might be the one.
3. YOU HAVE PROBLEMS AND YOU HANDLE THEM WELL
Dr. John Gottman, a marriage researcher, says that the success of a couple’s relationship is not determined by the problems they have, but how they respond and solve those problems. Problems are inevitable in every relationship, but you both need to be able to avoid blaming and criticizing the other person and instead look to solve the problems.
4. YOU WANT TO LEARN FROM EACH OTHER
Dr. Gottman says that couples who influence each other have more positive and healthy relationships. They value the other person and respect what they bring to the table. This is a very important quality in every healthy relationship. Respecting, valuing, and accepting the other person is what makes a lasting marriage.
5. YOU REALLY WANT IT TO WORK
It may sound silly to say that really wanting to marry your boyfriend is a clue, but it is! Our intuition is a powerful tool and we should never underestimate its power.
Ladies, do you want to marry your boyfriend?