“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu
You do it all the time. You beat yourself up for saying or doing something because you worry others will think less of you. After 106 selfies, you post only the best selfie (of course after adding a filter) to get others to think you are beautiful. Stop. Stop worrying about other people.
What other people think of you should not bother you. After all, what someone thinks of you says more about them, their perception of things, and their reality. It has almost nothing to do with you.
Some people will never like you no matter how much you try and what you do. Don’t give a f*ck about them. Live your life the best you could and focus only on improving and bettering yourself. Here are 5 powerful mindset shifts to help you not care about others.
1. KNOW YOUR WORTH AND YOUR VALUES AND STICK TO THEM.
By knowing your top core values, what is truly important to you, you will never be led astray. For instance, ‘perseverance’ is one of my top core values, and I always remember it whenever I go to the gym wearing my old gym clothes. At that moment, I don’t care what others think of me. Rather, I applaud myself for not letting myself down and staying determined.
2. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS
There are 3 types of “business” out there. The first one is God, or nature, or the universe’s business. They are the things over which you don’t have control: the weather, who dies, who gets born… etc. The second kind of business is other people’s business. You should not care about their business at all. What they do is their own thing. And the third type of business is your own business, and this is the one over which you have full control and you should care only about this one.
3. YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR FEELINGS
When your feelings depend on other people’s opinions of you, then it is like you are giving them full control of your life. You are welcoming them into your world and allowing them to be the ones that are responsible for your emotions. Stop doing that. You are the only person that is responsible for your feelings. Don’t let yourself feel bad for someone’s mistreatment of you.
4. YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN
If there is one thing I hate the most is when someone in an attempt to console me says to me, “Well, don’t beat yourself up. You did the best you could.” I am a highly ambitious person and this sentence was hurting me deeply. However, now I realize that it is the truth. We are all doing the best we can every day. Therefore, we shouldn’t have any regrets over how we behaved in a situation. Yes, we could have done it better, but we did all that we could and that is all that matters. Our intent was always positive.
5. EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES
This is cliché, but it is cliché because it is true. We all make mistakes, we all beat ourselves up, we all wish we have done something differently. The truth is, even if you know your values and your worth, even if you mind your own business, even if you held yourself responsible for your feelings, and even if you are doing the best you can, you will still make mistakes. But that doesn’t matter because we all do. The only thing you should do is to learn from them.
Trust me, when you stop giving a f*ck about what other people think of you, you’ll life will change in the greatest way possible!