We’ve all been there. We’ve all been involved with a man who seemed so interested, loving, and devoted at the beginning, and suddenly turned cold, distant, and flaky.
He stops calling you and he is not replying as fast to your texts as he used to. He doesn’t hold your hand anymore and he stopped touching you and whispering sweet words to you like he used to.
So, you start questioning yourself where you went wrong, what has shifted, and why is he acting this way. I get it, seeing the man you love pulling away from you is one of the most excruciating and painful things that you can experience. You are probably panicking, feeling confused, and not knowing what you can do to stop them from leaving you.
And while we women can logically explain why we are distancing from a man and losing interest, with guys is not logical. A guy can be so into a girl, thinking that she might be the one, and then suddenly “POOF!” – he is gone.
I understand how disrespectful and hurtful it is, but if you want to keep him in your life and reignite the passion between you again – you must be careful with how you respond to his pulling away. That’s why below are the 5 most common reasons why guys lose interest so that you can avoid it from the start.
1. You’ve Become “Too Emotional”
During the beginning stages of your relationship, your guy found your confidence and emotional maturity very sexy and appealing. Your aloofness brought them closer to you and your sense of humor and positivity is what made him fall in love with you and enjoy your presence.
However, as the relationship was transforming from a casual to a serious one, you were transforming as well. From a carefree and fun girl, you started thinking twice about things and getting worried about the future. That killed your positive vibe and spark and the guy has felt it. He started pulling away because he didn’t know how to deal with your emotions that were intensifying.
2. You Are Insecure
I am not trying to insult you, but if you’ve become one of those women who is constantly nagging and asking your boyfriend where he is, who he is texting or whether he is cheating, then no wonder he started to lose interest.
No one wants to be interrogated all the time. A healthy relationship is based on mutual trust. If you are constantly questioning him about his every move, he will think of you as a jealous and insecure woman (even label you as “crazy”). No good comes out of nagging. You’ll only push him further and further away.
3. You Look Desperate
If the man you are in love with is pulling away from you, then the reason might be that you are emotionally unsatisfied and unbalanced. Basically, if you are loving yourself and your life, a guy won’t be your sole source of happiness and your preoccupation.
Your independence, your passions, and hobbies outside of your relationship are what makes you sexy and attractive to him. That’s why he fell in love with you in the first place. By abandoning your old ways of living and focusing only on him, you’ll become desperate and he’ll start losing feelings for you.
4. You Are Forcing it
When you start seeing a guy, it is essential for you to keep your emotions out of the situation until you are in a committed relationship regardless of how great and amazing they are. Because men tend to live in the moment, as opposed to women who are concerned about the future.
That’s why if you become too emotionally involved too soon, he is going to probably start feeling pressured and pull away. Don’t try to force love and emotions. Let it all flow and happen naturally.