Who you become in life is pretty much determined by your own course of actions. It all depends on the energy you produce, the vibe you share and as a result the things you attract and the experiences you welcome in your life.
Naturally, we all aspire to eventually develop a positive mindset about life. But, life is not always what we want it to be.
There are times when life puts us to the ultimate test, throws us off balance, destroys all our hopes, kills every expectation we had and push us right into the dark pits of negativity.
However, the good news is – you always have a choice!
You are the only person responsible for the things that happen to you. What you welcome in your life, and what you accept is completely on you. The consequences of your actions are yours. You choose whether you’ll enjoy them or regret them.
Once you realize this, your life will become much easier. Believe me.
Here are 18 destructive behaviors you need to get rid off in order to improve your life:
1. LIVING IN THE PAST
Don’t let your youth go to waste. Don’t waste away your energy regretting your past experiences. New opportunities are coming your way, but you’re too blind to notice them. Stop for a second and think about it. What is done cannot be undone. The only thing that exists is this moment. Carpe that f*ckng diem! Make every second count.
2. DREADING THE FUTURE
The future is out of your reach. You cannot predict it, so you better spare yourself the effort and focus on the present instead. After all, every choice you make today impacts your future. Work on it!
3. NOT STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF
You are the only person responsible for your life. If something doesn’t feel right, you have to stay away from it. If something hurts you, you have to stand up for yourself and say it. Don’t be afraid of being heard. Your voice matters!
4. TOXIC SELF-CRITICISM
It’s essential to be realistic if you want to follow the right path in life. A healthy dosage of self-criticism and reality check is always welcome. They help us get back on the ground and see things clearly. But, you have to know when to stop. Once self-criticism becomes your usual activity, thing tend to get ugly. You are much more than you think. Don’t let your insecurities weigh you down and make you feel worthless.
5. SEEKING VALIDATION
Remember, people don’t care about you. They only care about themselves. So, stop seeking validation for your existence. Be confident with who you are, no matter what others say. Get out and do your thing. You are different. And that my friend, is courageous. Stay in your magic!
The truth may sometimes be brutal, but it’s the truth. Lying won’t get you anywhere. The long-term effect of continuous lying can be very hurtful both to yourself and the person you’re lying to. So, be honest. No matter how much it hurts.
Whether it’s your loved one, your friends or yourself that you’re being dishonest with, cheating will open the door for negativity in your life. A life full of lies and deceit is not a life you want to live. Believe me.
8. TAKING THINGS TOO PERSONALLY
Everything is not always about you. Learn to approach life more calmly and rationally, and you’ll understand what I am talking about. Don’t let constant stress ruin your life. Just let things go.
9. HOLDING GRUDGES
“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” If you choose to stick to negative emotions and low-frequency energies that’s exactly what you’ll attract in life.
Is it worth it? I think not. No matter what happened, life is too short to hold grudges. Forgive, accept and move on. Don’t let your life go up in smoke.
10. FEELING ENTITLED
News flash for you buddy. This world doesn’t revolve around you. Feeling entitled and thinking you own the world won’t do you any good. It will actually work against you. So, work hard and earn your place.
11. ACTING SELFISH
Don’t be afraid to open your heart and be more generous. Selfishness and egocentric will only lead you to a life full of loneliness and misery.
12. PLEASING EVERYONE
Oh, darling… You will never be powerful enough to please everyone. No matter how much you do for people, they’ll always ask for more. Be there for them, but make those boundaries. Do as much as you can, but make sure you don’t lose yourself on the way.
Avoiding self-care is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Take good care of yourself. Treat yourself, love yourself, respect yourself. You are all you’ve got.
14. PLAYING THE VICTIM
We’ve all been through hell. But’s our own choice to make whether we’ll get up on our feet, keep moving or stay down and be miserable. Don’t let life put you down. Rise above the ashes and become the best version of yourself.
15. BEHAVING COMPETITIVE
Life isn’t a competition. All of us have a different journey and different purpose on Earth. So, stop competing. Every person fights their own battle.
Remember, A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.
16. BEING TOO AFRAID OF CHANGES
Changes are an inevitable part of life. I know it sounds scary, but stepping out of your comfort zone is the only way to discover the unknown and grow. Never let the fear of changes stop you from achieving your goals and reaching your greatest potential.
17. HAVING UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS OF LIFE
Perfection is an illusion. There’s no perfect life, perfect love, perfect job, perfect person. Stop hurting yourself by falling into the trap of “perfectionism”. The sooner you embrace this flawed world, the better. Stop chasing ideals. Stop having unrealistic expectations of life.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop hating people because they have much more than you do. Instead, celebrate their success and let them be your inspiration. Work even harder and achieve your desired goals. Nothing is stopping you.