Women, haven’t we already had enough?
I’m sick and tired of carrying the whole world on my shoulders. I’m sick and tired of being judged and sexualized just because I am a woman. I’m sick and tired of being addressed as the “gentler” gender. I’m just extremely pissed at the society’s expectations of me.
“Act like a lady”; “Find a man who will love you”; “Don’t be picky – you’ll end up alone”; “Have children”; “You don’t want to marry – what’s wrong with you?”; “Be nice and respect your man”; “Dress like a lady”.
Well, I’ve had it.
So, this goes to all of you tough, resilient ladies. You may be strong, but you should have to put up with this shit!
It’s time to finally stop giving a fuck about:
1. WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU
What others have to say about you should not be your concern. What others think of you is not important and shouldn’t influence your decisions. Because trust me, they don’t even think about you that much.
Remember. “What Susie says of Sally says more of Susie than of Sally.”
2. PEOPLE JUDGING YOU ABOUT BEING SINGLE
You don’t owe anything to anyone. If you want to stay alone and devote your time to yourself, do it. If you want to stay single because you feel like it, you go girl!
Being alone does not mean being lonely, it doesn’t mean you are miserable, sad and desperate for love. It just means you are comfortable with your own.
Enjoy it!
3. SOCIETY’S EXPECTATIONS OF YOU
You know what I say? F*ck society! Who are you to tell me what should I do? Who are you to force me to act socially acceptable? Why should I be governed by the society’s, mediocre rules about what’s right or wrong?
You should never let other people’s expectations get in your way of achieving your dreams!
4. THAT DOUCHEBAG WHO RUINED YOUR LIFE
Don’t you think it’s finally time to let go of him? He treated you like you are worthless, he manipulated you, on top of it all… he dumped you.
He doesn’t deserve your attention and he doesn’t deserve your tears girl. Get a hold of yourself and keep moving on!
5. BEING A DECENT, QUIET AND KIND LADY
No, don’t let them suffocate you. Don’t let them shut you up. Be ladylike if you want to be. But, don’t let others underrate you and belittle you just because you are a woman.
You are a fierce lioness. You have a powerful voice. And you need to be heard!
Stand up for yourself and don’t let the bastards grind you down!
6. YOUR PAST
I know, we all had traumas from the past. We’ve all been through ugly experiences and rough patches that we’re not so proud of. But, the past is gone. There’s nothing that you can do to fix it.
Keep your chin up, dear. The future is ahead of you.
7. RIDICULOUS BEAUTY STANDARDS
Oh please. Break those silly rules. Wear your mom jeans no matter how baggy they are. Rock that mini, tight skirt. Mix those prints and add a few colors. Create your own image. Take care of your own personal style. If you are comfortable in your own skin, that’s all that really matters.
Don’t let others take that away from you.
8. SHOULDA, WOULDA, COULDA
Well, it’s kind of late for these, isn’t it? Once you miss an opportunity that made your eyes glisten and heart sing with joy, regrets are nasty reminders of your lost opportunities.
It is what it is. Learn to let go.
9. MISTAKES AND FAILURES
Listen. Failing is not something that should disappoint you. It’s a stepping stone to glory. The more you fail, the closer you are. Mistakes mean that you are moving on, not just waiting from the opportunities to fall off the sky.
10. WHAT OTHERS ARE DOING
Don’t give a damn about what others follow or do. Don’t waste your time on current trends. There’s a reason why they’re called trends. Because they are happening for a brief period of time and then they’re gone forever.
Instead of blindly following the crowd, stick to your guns and focus on the things you enjoy.
11. PEOPLE WHO DON’T LIKE YOU
What did you expect? That we live in a pink, utopian society where everyone likes you?
If people don’t like you and they don’t care about you, it’s probably true. But, you shouldn’t waste your f*cks on such trivial things. They are not worth the struggle.
You have your own life to focus on. So, keep doing what you’re doing.
Amazing things will follow. I promise.
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