We’ve all experienced the divine state of excitement and attachment at the begging of a certain relationship. You fall in love and suddenly it feels like everything around you ceases to exist, and the person next to you is the only one that matters.
They sweep you off your feet and you’re no longer here nor there. It feels like now you’re somewhere on seventh heaven. And it is amazing. It is the best thing that has ever happened to you.
But, as the honeymoon phase fades away, you start to see a few red flags along the way that worry you. As time passes by, more and more red flags start to appear out of nowhere. Slowly, but surely it becomes obvious that you’re probably in a relationship that is not going anywhere.
Here are 10 signs that point out that your love isn’t going to last:
1. THE ONLY THING THAT KEPT THE RELATIONSHIP ALIVE WAS THE PASSION
Passion is the thing that usually binds us to another human being. But what happens when that passion starts to mellow down?
If you haven’t experienced a stronger connection than just passion then it is obvious that your relationship won’t last long. For one relationship to thrive and be healthy, it needs to have more than just a corporeal connection.
2. YOU DON’T TALK ABOUT A FUTURE TOGETHER
This is one of the many signs that a relationship is not working as it should. When you’ve been dating for a while, but haven’t talked about a possible future together, that is a warning signal that should be thoroughly investigated. Is it early, or is it because your partner doesn’t see a future with you? It’s up to you to find out.
3. YOU ARE NOT HONEST WITH EACH OTHER
Honesty is the best policy when it comes to love and relationships. So, what kind of a relationship is that if you cannot be open with each other? Bottling up your feelings and hiding things from your partner will never strengthen your bond. If this is you, I suggest you stop for a second and think about where your relationship is really going.
4. YOU DON’T FIGHT, BUT YOU’RE NOT COMMUNICATING EITHER
You might be surprised, but the truth is couples who fight are the happiest couples ever. The thing is, not fighting might sound like bliss, but what you fail to understand here is that avoiding conflicts means avoiding communication.
Couples who avoid confrontation, even in the form of a fight are couples who like to bury their true emotions inside. They would rather live in a lie than face the consequences of the truth.
5. YOU DON’T LIKE THEIR FRIENDS OR FAMILY
This is another important sign that you should never overlook. Who we are is pretty much defined by who we’re surrounded with. So, if you don’t like your partner’s friends, chances are, you probably don’t like him/her as well.
Would you agree?
6. THERE’S A LACK OF EMPATHY BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU
The lack of empathy in a relationship is a serious sign that you do not care about this person the way you used to. When two people are attuned to each other, the mutual understanding and compassion are stronger than everything else. But, when this feeling doesn’t exist, it’s obvious. You’re in a relationship that is not meant to last long.
7. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE OBLIGATED TO BE A PART OF THIS RELATIONSHIP
Relationships shouldn’t make you feel forced to do anything. Love shouldn’t be a duty. It is the most beautiful and divine feeling of all. If this is the case with you, maybe it’s time to accept the sad truth and end things for good.
8. YOU DON’T GET TO DECIDE ABOUT ANYTHING
Is your partner constantly dismissing your opinions?
If the answer is positive, that is a clear sign that you are not valued by this person. You should stop for a second, rethink your choices and analyze where you’re going. Is this what you really want?
9. YOU ARE NOT THERE FOR EACH OTHER
It’s simple. There’s no give and take. There are no compromises between you. It’s either their choice or nothing at all. If you’ve been sacrificing your own well-being and your needs for someone who only cares about themselves, it is finally time to stand up and speak for yourself. This relationship is draining you. Put an end to it or let it end you.
10. YOU’VE NEVER DEVELOPED YOUR OWN INTERESTS
It has been said that partners who engage in the same interests are partners who stay together and live happily ever after. But, when you dive deep in your partner’s interested and become so codependent that you forget to focus on your own goals, you stop growing. That’s when it becomes evident that the relationship, you’re in is probably suffocating you.