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10 Harmful Behaviors That Will Keep You From Finding A Real Relationship

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Good day to you, fellow reader.

Let me guess. You are just another unfortunate soul in a million that struggles to find a real relationship that will work. Well, you’re not alone. But, besides blaming it on modern dating and our society, have you actually considered that it might be your actions that are sabotaging your love life?

Here are 10 behaviors of yours that are keeping you from finding a real relationship:

1. YOU’VE HAD A PAINFUL CHILDHOOD

Psychologists say that the way you attach to a person is pretty much based on how much love you’ve been given as a child. People who have struggled and lived with toxic parents as children need a long period of healing and someone who would reassure them of their love.

This may be one of the reasons why you cannot form a normal attachment to people and find a relationship that will work.

2. YOU APPLY THE DEAL BREAKER IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP

Yes, we all have deal-breakers when it comes to dating and relationships. But you might be too quick to judge people based on their first impression. So much, that sometimes you’re not even giving them space to prove you wrong and really show you what their heart carries. Rethink your actions.

3. YOU HAVE HIGH EXPECTATIONS

Have you wondered whether your standards are simply too high?

I get it, we’re all looking for the perfect person out there. But, in your quest for true love and an incredible partner, you must ask yourself “What do I have to offer to that special someone?”.

If the answer is not really satisfying to hear, you have your reason why all of your relationships keep failing.

4. YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES HAVE FORCED YOU TO STOP BELIEVING IN LOVE

You are knee deep in your past traumas. All you feel is guilt, regret, negativity, and sorrow. These bad vibes have entered your world and they’re poisoning yourself.

And trust me, anyone can see that. Would you date someone who is only focused on the dark, negative side of life?

5. YOU HAVE A LOW SELF-ESTEEM

As a result of your previous relationships and past, painful mistakes, you lack self-esteem. You’ve been torn apart, you’ve been broken, you’ve been manipulated, you’ve been taken for granted…

All of this has made you very weak to even envision a possible bright future ahead of you. Only you can help yourself.

6. YOU’RE ANXIOUS ABOUT WHAT WOULD EVENTUALLY HAPPEN WHEN YOU MEET THE RIGHT PERSON

You are desperate for love. You are eager to meet the person who will eventually change your world and show you what real love really feels like.

But, at the same time, you’re terrified of all the possible things that could go wrong. You are afraid to fall because there might not be someone for you to catch you. Your wounds from your last fall are still open. And they’re hurting.

7. YOU ARE CHASING AFTER A PERSON WHO IS ALREADY TAKEN

Unrequited love is probably the hardest thing you’ll get to experience in this life, but you have to find a way to let go. For your sake.

If you are lusting after a person who is already taken, and you’ve known that from the very first moment, it’s your own fault.

8. YOU THINK THAT YOU HAVE TO SACRIFICE YOUR PERSONALITY TO BE WITH SOMEONE

If you have to erase your identity and become someone people might like to find love, forget it. The truth is, there are couples like that. People are constantly changing and morphing into more loveable and likable beings. It gets them what they want.

But, the one thing they will never have is true love.

So, do not worry. I encourage you to be exactly who you are. No matter how imperfect, weird, goofy or flawed you are. Somewhere out there, there another goofy and weird person who would love you more than you can imagine.

9. YOU KEEP GETTING STUCK IN THE SAME RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS

What can I say? You have a certain issue that you have to work out with yourself first. Karma knows exactly what you deserve. So, if you’re struggling with people and relationship that are bad for you, there has to be a greater purpose for these painful experiences. Make time for yourself and try to learn the lesson life has given you.

10. YOU HAVE TRUST ISSUES

Listen, we’ve all been through this. The ones who were broken too many times know how hard it is to open up to someone after experiencing a long period of tears and pain.

I know, every fall is a chance to hurt yourself. But, what if, after a long time of sadness and pain, you suddenly begin to fly? Sounds like everything you’ve ever longed for, right?

Well, you’ll never know until you try.

Stephanie Reeds

Stephanie Reeds

A professional writer with many years of experience in the fields of psychology, human relationships, science, and spirituality.
Stephanie Reeds