I know that it’s hard to be single when all you want is someone to love. I understand how frustrating it is to see all your friends get into relationships when you can’t find someone to be with. Trust me, I’ve been in the position where I’ve tried to rush love, but it just didn’t work out.
That’s because real love is something that needs to happen naturally. No matter how much you may want to, you can’t rush love – it will find you when it’s ready. (1)
Find That True Connection
Although it may be tempting to jump into a relationship and hope for the best, all that will do is break your heart. The only relationship that’s really worth your time is one with someone who you immediately bond with.
So, wait for the person that you have an undeniable connection with.
Wait for the person who ignites a spark in you that you didn’t even know existed.
Wait until you’re sure that the person in front of you is really your destiny.
Only then will you find that love that you’ve been searching for for so long. If you settle for anything less than that, you’ll always know that you’ve compromised on true love. You will always know that there could have been someone better for you out there.
Not Everyone Will Put in the Work
Fairytale romances are beautiful, effortless, and completely perfect. Despite that, all they will ever be are fairytales.
In the real world, relationships are messy and full of flaws. There are arguments, disagreements, and times of trouble between both people. Of course, they should never take up the majority of the relationship, but they will still always be there.
Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t understand that there will be bad times. Most importantly, make sure the person that you choose to love realizes how much effort they will need to put in.
Make sure that they are willing and ready to put in the work that it takes to share your life with another person.
Wait for Someone Who Loves the Real You
We’re all guilty of putting on a bit of a show when we first enter a new relationship. Since we so badly want that other person to like us, we present the best version of ourselves that we can. I’ve done that exact thing, and you probably have too.
The thing is though, you eventually need to rid yourself of that façade. You should be able to open up and be yourself, to show them who you really are.
That’s when you’ll know how much they really love you.
If they really care about you enough, they won’t want to change a thing. They’ll love everything about you, even the very worst of your flaws. Likewise, they’ll see the beauty that resides within you and will do whatever they can to protect that beauty.
Trust me, it’s not worth pretending to be someone you’re not just to please someone else. (2)
Love is the most beautiful thing in this world. However, you just can’t force it. Although it can be heartbreaking to be alone when you have so much love to give, you need to wait. Wait until love finds you and not the other way around. Please believe me, it will find you when it’s ready.
If you have any single friends who have been desperately seeking love, share this with them. Let them know that love is out there, they just need to be patient.
