You loved them. And they loved you. But now, it is over. You both decided to break up and move on with your lives after battling and bleeding for a long time trying your best to resolve the things that were separating you. Finally, after everything you did and everything couldn’t do, you called it quits.
You were always kind to each other, there wasn’t any kind of manipulative or abusive behavior. No one was unfaithful. No one lied. However, for whatever reason, you decided that it’s best for both of you to go your separate ways.
But, should you separate and not remain friends? There are many people who think that when relationships break it is best to move on and cut all the contact with your ex-partner as though they never existed in your life.
In my opinion, that is a mistake. Why? Because genuine friendships are rare and when you have formed a connection with someone that is real and honest, you shouldn’t just throw it away. After all, no one knows you better than the person you once shared everything with. And even if you two can’t be together in a romantic way, there is no reason that you shouldn’t remain friends.
If you two can work through the arguments and the pain, work on your issues, and heal your heart of the bitterness and anger, then you can continue to stay in each other’s lives and be happy for the other person’s happiness. Yes, I understand that this is difficult and it will be especially hard when you see them move on with someone else, but the hurt will pass and you can start seeing them as just your friend.
After all, friendship doesn’t mean that you should be in contact every day. Just be there for them when they need you. That’s all. Support them despite the separation.
Perhaps you two were never meant to be together, but still, that doesn’t mean that you can’t have a positive influence on each other. Because the bond you two shared was deep and beautiful and it is not something that you should throw out just like that.
What do you think? Feel free to share your thoughts on this subject in the comment section below. I will be happy to read them all.
