I recently ended a relationship with someone who I thought was perfect for me. Although they weren’t around very often, they gave me everything that I thought I wanted – security, kindness, humor, and understanding. They even surprised me with thoughtful gifts when I least expected it. Despite all those things, however, something still didn’t feel right.
That was because even though I thought what they were giving me was enough, I was missing the one thing that I really needed. This is the only thing that someone who honestly loves you will want from you.
They Want You
People often try to show their love in different ways. Some people buy their partner gifts and others tell them in a hundred different ways how much they mean to them. Although the intentions behind those things are good, they’re still not enough to grow your love.
You can buy them all the luxuries in the world and text your significant other that you love them every morning, but that’s not what they really want from you. They’re with you because they want you, not because they want your presents or your words. They want to be with you, to hold you, to have your near them.
The greatest gift that you could ever give to the person that you love is your presence. It makes them feel safe and comfortable. Most of all, it makes them feel like they’re at home with the person that they care about most.
This is The Reason That Many Relationships Fail
Nothing can replace the feeling of having your loved one be present. Many seemingly happy relationships fail because the couple can’t find time to be with one another physically.
40% of all long-term relationships end in breakups. That’s not because they fall out of love with one another or realize that they’re not right for each other, it’s because they can’t be near each other enough. Those kinds of couples normally strive to see each other as often as possible, but it’s usually not enough to maintain their connection to one another.
Hug Them, Kiss Them, And Hold Them Close
If you really wanted to, you could hug your phone or your laptop, even if it does sound a little silly. The thing is though, that hugging an object doesn’t give you the same feeling that hugging a person does.
When you hug someone that you love, your brain releases endorphins, or feel good hormones. Those chemicals help you feel happy and loved, as well as strengthening the bond between you and that other person. Although we often overlook how important physical touch is, it’s crucial to forming and maintaining relationships.
How can you be physically close with your partner if you’re not with them often enough? How can you keep your love strong if you’re not there to hold them? Being present with the person that you love truly is the single most important thing that you can do for them.
Don’t let your love fade just because you didn’t spend enough quality time with your significant other. Put down your phone, take some time away from your other responsibilities, and just be with them. Not only will your relationships stay strong because of it, but you’ll also grow the love that you two already have together.
Share this article with any couples that you know to show them how important their presence is in their relationship.
