We act, we react, and then we overreact. We stress and obsess, and we let every nonsense bother us. We are not aware of the stress we cause our mind and body when we try to fix every situation and react when people bother us.
It took me some time to understand that I cannot fix everything with my own thoughts and opinions. I’ve read a lot of books about anger and stress management, and I am still learning. I am constantly trying to stay observant and silent in a lot of situations, because when I react, it doesn’t mean that the problem will be fixed. When I react, I give power to the situation, and not power to my own mind.
The fact that I choose to stay inactive when a situation bothers me doesn’t mean I am okay with the given situation. It means I choose not to let the situation take my power and energy away. I choose to rise above the situation and find peace.
Before responding, I take a few deep breaths. I make space for my mind to decide what it is that I want to say. I choose the words wisely and control the reaction. Reactions are hard to control, because reactions are driven by our emotions. And for the emotions to calm down, they need clear facts because some reactions only cause the body stress and aggression.
I can’t control what other people do, but I choose to control how I respond, how I handle their reactions. I choose not to take everything personally. Because these situations only talk about the other person and not about us.
Disappointments are here to teach us to love ourselves even more and be more prepared for the next situation. Because believe me, situations that bother us will keep on existing, people will keep on disappointing us, and it is only up to us to decide how we look on the situation.
Whatever you say will not make others change their minds. Whether it is about food, job, or about loving and caring for you, sometimes it’s better to let things be.
For once, don’t look for closure, don’t look for explanation about anything, don’t go after people, and don’t try to understand them and everything they do. Life is too short to work on everyone rather than on yourself. Your inner peace and balance between your reactions and emotions are a prerequisite for living a happier and healthier life.
It wasn’t easy for me, and it will not be easy for you either. But, start with one situation at a time, give it a go, and time will show results of calmness and peace in your body and mind. Work on yourself and forget about “owning” every situation, because it’s a waste of time and energy with no result of fullness in your soul.
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