There is a hidden pressure inside each and every one of us that keeps us stuck in unhappy and toxic relationships. Many people justify staying in unhealthy relationships that don’t make them happy saying that they have invested so much time and effort and because of it they don’t want to let go.
When you’ve been in a relationship with a person for years, or perhaps you are married to them, it is hard to leave because that relationship holds a deep meaning in your life.
You are invested. You love them. You feel that if you break up with them, a part of you will be gone and you won’t be able to replace it.
You fear to be on your own. You fear not finding love again. You fear not finding a person who will accept you and understand you and with whom you can build a future. So, you lie to yourself saying you don’t have to be happy and that all relationships face challenges and hard periods. And you stay.
You believe that you can make it work. You remember the times when you were happy, and you focus on those while forgetting the fights, the tears, the pain, and the lack of trust and respect that is lingering in your relationship. And you trust that you can bring back everything that is lost.
After all, you have calculated your investment and your future loss and it doesn’t look good – maybe your living situation will have to change, you may lose family and friends, you may need an intervention from a lawyer, your whole life will crumble and you may feel lost, confused, and broken…
Stop for a minute and ask yourself this: How much are you willing to sacrifice at the risk of losing yourself? Is it worth being unhappy for the rest of your life just because you feel you’ve invested so much?
There is no cost greater than being happy and finding the love you deserve. So, instead of investing yourself in toxic and unhealthy relationships, why don’t you start investing in yourself?
