Many people falsely believe that being likable comes naturally. Being likable is something over which you have the power. You have the control over yourself and your emotions and how you present yourself to the world.
We all know how important it is to be likable. It affects all the aspects of our life. So, if you want to be more likable, avoid doing these 8 unattractive things.
1. GOSSIPING
Gossiping will make even the most attractive and charismatic person look horrible. It makes you a negative and bitter person. And no one wants to be around to a person like that.
2. SHARING TOO MUCH, TOO SOON
While connecting to people requires sharing personal information about yourself, if you share too much about yourself in the initial phases, that is wrong, and you’ll come across as needy for attention and self-obsessed.
3. CHECKING YOUR PHONE
Nothing is ruder than checking your phone while in the middle of a conversation. When you communicate with someone, make sure that you focus all your attention and energy on them and the conversation.
4. CLOSED – MINDEDNESS
People want to be around open-minded, interesting people. No one wants to be around someone that has a closed mind and has already formed opinions about everything that are impossible to change. Keeping an open mind is extremely attractive and powerful in all areas of your life.
5. NAME – DROPPING
Yes, it is great to know amazing and important people, but when you “accidentally” drop their names into every conversation, it is a cry for attention. People can see right through it. It also diminishes your value and makes you seem insecure.
6. NOT ASKING ENOUGH QUESTIONS
Instead of being focused on the conversation, many people focus on what they are going to say next or how will the other person react to their words. People like to know that you are listening to them.
So, by asking them questions they not only know you are listening but that you actually care of what they are saying. In turn, they will appreciate you and respect you for it.
7. EMOTIONAL HIJACKINGS
An emotional hijacking equals low emotional intelligence. When you show others that you don’t have control over yourself and your emotions, people would consider you as an unstable and untrustworthy human being.
So, instead of throwing things, screaming and exploding, try to control yourself so that you remain in the driver’s seat. That gives you the ultimate power over anyone who wrongs you or disrespects you.
8. “HUMBLE” BRAGGING
We all know those who use the mask of self-deprecation to brag about themselves. For instance, the girl that makes fun of herself for following a strict diet when she just wants to reveal how fit she is.
Or, poking fun at herself for being a nerd while actually, she is implying how smart she is. This is what makes the bragging annoying. Because it is not just the bragging part, but the attempt to deceive also.
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“I’ve trained myself to illuminate the things in my personality that are likable and to hide and protect the things that are less likable.”- Will Smith
