Leaving a toxic and abusive relationship is extremely difficult because of all the emotions and energy you’ve invested in trying to make it work. And you became in a way used to the abuse because the emotional rollercoaster felt like a drug to you.
And after some time, you’ve realized that the only thing you and your partner have in common is that you both love the same person – them.
They broke your heart. They manipulated you. Lied to you. Cheated on you. Abused you physically and emotionally. Until one day, you decided that you couldn’t take it anymore. So, you left.
But they’ve taken a part of you and left a void inside you. A void that is hard to be filled. You feel like you’ve lost yourself and it is hard for you to heal.
That’s why when you meet someone new, you are guarded. You are scared. And those feelings are normal. Here’s what else will happen once you meet a good partner after going through all the abuse.
1. They Know That There’s More To You Than What You Show
You may feel confused at first having someone who is so interested in you and everything that you are. You may still have your guard up because your previous relationship has left you broken hearted and insecure. But now you have a patient partner by your side who believes in you and your potential. They know that you are scared to be open and vulnerable again and that’s why they are willing to wait until you begin to trust them.
2. They Want You To Trust Them
They know what you had gone through. They know that you were deeply hurt in the past, but they want to help you heal. They want you to open up to them and trust them that they would never hurt you like that.
3. They Treat You The Way You Deserve To Be Treated
They treat you with kindness and respect all the time. Even the simplest things they do for you feel so good and bring you so much happiness as you’ve never experienced before. That’s because you were stuck in a selfish relationship that you’ve forgotten how it’s like to be on a receiving end for a change.
4. They Pay Attention To Everything You Have To Say
Your previous relationship was all about your partner. Not this time. Now you have someone who pays attention to every detail and listens to everything you have to say because they are genuinely interested and want to know everything about you.
5. They Apologize
If you were taught anything from your last relationship, it is that everything is your fault. You never got to hear your partner apologizing to you. Instead, you took all the blame. However, things are not like that with your new person. They say they are sorry whenever they make a mistake and they immediately try to fix the situation.
6. They Will Give You The World
You were used to giving everything to your abusive ex and go the extra mile without getting anything in return. But now you have someone who is ready to do everything to make you happy. And that’s amazing.
7. They Are Not Manipulative And Abusive
Abusers and manipulators want to be in control all the time. That’s why you were always walking on eggshells around them, fearing that you might do something that will piss them off. And now that you are in a healthy relationship, you understand that relationship are all about compromise and equality, that no one is better than the other.
8. They Show You What True Love Really Looks Like
With them by your side, you’ll finally understand the meaning of true love. You’ll finally feel happy and emotionally fulfilled. Because every person glows in the right relationship.
