I wish I could have a magic wand and make all the pain and brokenness in you disappear. I wish I could erase every bad memory from your heart, every person who hurt you and made you feel you are not enough. I wish I had a magic rubber that could erase all the darkness from your heart and made it like it was before you experienced all the pain and suffering.
I want to tell you that you can do it. You can be brave again. Your heart can become strong again. You can get rid of all the mess that is inside and cleanse it from all the heartbreaks. I want to tell you that you can love again but first, you need to heal your own heart.
Because even if the person of your dreams stands in front of you and everyone around you can see how compatible you two are, if you are not healed and ready to love again, you will not be able to see them or love them and there is no amount of convincing that will change that.
Love is the only battle that you need to fight on your own. Falling in love again after a long period of suffering does feel like warfare. Your wounds are still bleeding, you have trust issues, and you are still trying to put all your broken pieces together. It is difficult. But, you must do it. You must heal first before you think about falling in love again.
Someone once said, “if you are still hurting, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” I believe this is true. No one deserves to be hurt unconsciously by us while we deal with our inner demons.
I wish I could tell you that the journey of healing is easy and simple. Sadly, it is not. It doesn’t happen overnight. But it will all be worth it in the end. Every tear. Every struggle.
You will be free again and ready to love more passionately and fiercely as ever. And this is what we all live for.
