I am done making excuses for shitty behavior. When you truly love someone, there are no excuses in exchange of apologies. There is no cheating because your partner has been distant and preoccupied with work. No lying because you fear the truth might be hurtful. No shifting the blame because you are a coward to admit your wrongdoings.
When you are in love with someone, you should own your shit! You should think about how your actions are affecting your partner. You don’t try to get away with your bullshit. You can’t be selfish like that and not think about your partner’s feelings.
If you really love someone, you get disappointed at yourself anytime you see you’ve caused pain to your person. You care about their happiness as much (or more) as your own. Therefore, you would never intentionally do something that you know will hurt them. You want to be there for them and heal their wounds, not inflict more pain in their heart.
When you are in love with someone, your actions should speak louder than your words. You are fully aware of what you want, and you go after it. In the right relationship, you know you love your partner and you do everything to make them happy. Your actions are actions of love. You follow through with plans, you go on dates, you plan the future with them. You know they deserve the best and you are at your best behavior.
When you love someone, you try harder. You try harder to make them feel appreciated, comfortable, and utterly loved. You don’t half-ass things. You are present. You are there for them. You don’t manipulate them for your own benefit. You don’t take them for granted.
When you are in love with someone, you are careful to not repeat the same mistakes that once have broken you apart. You can’t have the ‘no matter how many times I screw up, I can get away with it’ mentality. You can’t take advantage of your partner’s good heart and their willingness to forgive you.
You just can’t behave like an a**hole with your partner even if they have never called you out on your bullshit. Even if they have never threatened to leave you or cried because of your actions – YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO TREAT THEM LIKE THEY ARE DISPOSABLE.
If you are not ready to love them the way they deserve to be loved, then leave them alone. Because, if you really love someone then the last thing you want to do is causing them pain. And if you continue hurting them and calling that love – then I am sorry, but you don’t deserve them.
So, get lost and let them find the love they deserve someplace else.