I am someone who truly cares about their personal relationships.
You know those rare loving and caring friends that are always there for you, no matter what? Well, I was that person.
I’ve always lived by the rule that friendships, just like flowers need to be well taken care of in order to thrive. Otherwise, it won’t be long before they are completely dried and dead. So, I’ve always invested myself in relationships. I’ve always wanted to be there for the people I love.
Unfortunately, I haven’t always had the same treatment from all the people in my life. But I always said to myself – “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” The people who are meant to be in your life will be there. The ones who are worthy will recognize your light.
Until one day I finally realized that I’ve been giving myself away to all the wrong people.
I finally saw the truth that was in front of my eyes the whole damn time. I realized that I’ve been fooling myself all along. People won’t always treat you the same way you treat them. Some of them are in your life just to take advantage of you. They only show up when they need you to be there for them.
So, I made a little experiment. I stopped calling. I stopped showing up. I completely disappeared. I simply wanted to see how many dead plants I’ve been watering over the years.
The brutal reality shocked me. It broke my heart, but it also made me more aware of the people I was surrounded with.
And, finally, I decided to take matters into my own hands and cut off the people in my life who weren’t good for me. Many friendships that I thought were real, were lost in this process, but the feeling I got after facing the truth was liberating.
Friendship should be a two-way street. You cannot expect to get something if you don’t give anything in return. It’s just the way it goes. If you really care for another human being, you will be there for them, regardless of how busy your life is. There are no excuses when you love someone. You are right there beside them because you chose to be there. There’s no place you’d rather be than next to them.
So, I am done giving my heart and soul to people who cannot bother to appreciate me. I deserve to be surrounded by people who truly, genuinely respect me and love me. I am done fighting to save relationships that have been dead all along. I am done being there for people who have no time for me. I am done pretending that everything is fine when it clearly isn’t. I’m done letting people abuse my kindness.
My time is too precious for me to be wasting it on people who don’t make me happy.
I’m letting go every person who ever hurt me, neglected me, abandoned me, ghosted me and then pretended to be my friend when they needed me.
I would rather have one, loyal, caring friend who truly loves me, than waste my life on people who pretend they love me but have no time for me. Quality over quantity, always and forever.